Healthier Intimate Relationships

I employ concepts and approaches aimed to help empower your relationships. To help you focus on only what you can control.: your own behavior. There are many reasons one experiences rocky intimate relationships. Relationships don’t come with an instruction manual.

Having Healthy Relationships

Unhealthy relationships, dysfunctional relationships. Self-defeating relationships, chaotic relationships? These are common struggles and I can assist you. Fear of commitment, significant others who are emotionally unavailable and self-absorbed. Feelings of possessiveness and jealous toward your mate. Always feel like you are left hanging on a string. Constant angst. Waiting for text messages. “Why did he take so long to return my text? What exactly did he mean when he texted, ‘ttyl’?” Constantly feeling unwanted. Feeling rejected.

Why are relationships so difficult and painful?

I employ concepts and approaches aimed to help empower your relationships. To help you focus on only what you can control.: your own behavior. There are many reasons one experiences rocky intimate relationships. Relationships don’t come with an instruction manual. relationship help atlantaBUT, there is a common thread that runs through dysfunctional relationships. They key is for you to identify the origins of your relationship patterns. Only then can you begin to change your relationships.

Why do I have relationship problems? I need advice. I need more than advice!

It is important to identify Triggers that preceed:

1) you pushing someone away
2) you distancing yourself
3) anger and rage episodes
4) becoming suspicious and obsessive
5) feeling abandoned
6) feeling unwanted
7) feeling unlovable

I can help you identify triggers. I have been trained in techniques to help you gain new perspective. The first step is gaining insight on your behavior. I will then provide advice based on your new understanding of yourself.

Why do I continue to attract unaccountable men?

Ponder this: First, it is an expression of helplessness to believe you are a magnet for lousy men. It suggests you are a passive participant in your relationships. Second, we encounter the many of the opposite sex every day. Is it not through chance accident these men have the  same qualities. Empower yourself! I can help you have a deeper understanding of yourself and who YOU are attracted to.

We interrupt this program for Breaking News. If you are still reading this, you are likely a good candidate for improving your relationships!

Parental Abandonment in Childhood

Abandonment is perceived by an adult differently than a child. Children own their abandonment. I was bad. I did something wrong. I was to blame. I did something to not be loved. What did I do to make Mom not want me?

What do children perceive as abandonment?

A parent who:

1) had an alcohol or drug addiction (click here for an excellent book)
2) was incarcerated
3) died
4) left the home
a) started another family
b) many broken promises of visitations, birthdays.
c) broke all contact

A child perceives a parent’s death in the same manner as if they had they left. Or if they were incarcerated. Why didn’t he want me? What did I do wrong? Have you ever told yourself those words in your intimate relationships? If so, you could be acting out those old abandonments.

Bad Experiences or Unpleasant Memories from Childhood

Sometimes we have bad early memories but question whether it was abusive. I can help you determine this.

1) Sexual Abuse
a) Incest
b) Sexual exploitation
c) Being touched in ways that caused you to feel uncomfortable
d) Taken advantage of while you were intoxicated
2) Emotional neglect
a) Parent who was absent emotionally
b) Substance abusing parent
3) Physical Abuse
a) discipline that felt to you the person was in a rage

Why discuss my past?

1) If it is causing unhealthy adult behavior then your past is…your present. If you revisit the past, you give it new meaning. This new meaning paves the way to changing the present.

Be Courageous. You can do it!

I will provide the safe environment for you to confront your pain and fears. Take charge now.  Click here to make an instant appointment.

Bipolar Disorder

Why Have I Been Diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder ?

Please read this article fully. It explains the complex condition in clear terms. Only some of it may apply to you. For others, it will be spot on. Eric Groh is an Atlanta Atlanta Bipolar Disorder Therapistcounselor who has helped hundreds of Bipolar Disorder individuals greatly improve their lives through psychotherapy.

Why the word, ” Bipolar “?

Bipolar describes the ups and downs of our mood. Ups and downs are normal. We aren’t in a good mood all of the time. We aren’t in a bad mood all of the time. That’s not how our brains operate. It is normal to feel excited. Sometimes we feel sad. Life would be boring if our mood were the same all of the time. There is Bipolar Type 1 and 2. Type 1 is much more rare. It tends to be more chronic and severe. Some believe the two disorders are only loosely related. At least 90% of those diagnosed are Type 2.

Watch the video above. Then return to continue reading.

Healthy Fluctuations in Mood versus …

The video begins with gentle waves. Interpret them as pleasant mood changes. The waves intensify with splashes of color. The colors represent ecstasy and excitement. Sadness and mourning. A normal range of emotion.

Type 2 Bipolar symptoms are often “triggered”. Panic Attacks. Memories replaying like a video. Nightmares. Rage episodes. Isolation. Dark places that feel like a cloud hanging over us. Agitation. Irritability. Negative reactions to relationship events. Disorientation.

… Bipolar is Deep Highs and Deep Lows

But notice what occurs at the midpoint of the video. There are bursts and eruptions that result in a deepening of the waves. They waves become erratic and violent. These are the distressing mood swings of Bipolar Disorder.

Bipolar Type 1 and What Causes Mood Swings

With Type 1, sometimes nothing. They might be random due to a chemical imbalance in the brain. The person is usually prescribed medications to keep their mood steady.  A full manic episode ( the older name ” manic depression ” ) includes symptoms of: (National Institute of Mental Health)

Thoughts crashing into each other.
Being unusually distracted.
Increasing activities, such as taking on multiple new projects.
Irritability or agitation.
Sleeping little or not being tired.
Having an outrageous beliefs in one’s abilities.
High risk health behavior.

When most severe, one may believe they are a prophet or great figure in history. It is even obvious to family they have severe problems. Sadly it can result in forced hospitalization.  It is most effectively treated with medications to keep your mood level.

Bipolar Type 2: Milder Mood Swings With Often Identifiable Causes

People who have deep mood swings but have never had a
full manic episode are often categorized Bipolar Type 2.

In some ways, it is a catch-all category. A diagnosis for everyone who does not meet criteria for Bipolar Type 1. While not applicable to all, the following is relevant for many.

Many individuals experiencing adverse experiences in childhood have been previously diagnosed Bipolar Type 2.

A staggering number of adults who have survived sexual trauma in childhood are also diagnosed Bipolar 2. Many studies say at least twice the rate of non-trauma survivors. Therefore, many survivors have dramatic mood swings. If an adult survivor of molestation comes to me already diagnosed by a medical doctor, about 70% are Bipolar Type 2.

Sorting Out Type 1 and Type 2

There are subtle but important differences. Symptoms may appear the same, but have different processes.With Bipolar 2, the mood swings are often not random as in Type 1. Rather, they can be triggered by stress. Panic Attacks. Flashbacks. Nightmares. Rage episodes. Isolation. Agitation. Irritability. Negative reactions to relationship events. Disorientation.

Examples of Triggers