Healthier Intimate Relationships

I employ concepts and approaches aimed to help empower your relationships. To help you focus on only what you can control.: your own behavior. There are many reasons one experiences rocky intimate relationships. Relationships don’t come with an instruction manual.

Having Healthy Relationships

Unhealthy relationships, dysfunctional relationships. Self-defeating relationships, chaotic relationships? These are common struggles and I can assist you. Fear of commitment, significant others who are emotionally unavailable and self-absorbed. Feelings of possessiveness and jealous toward your mate. Always feel like you are left hanging on a string. Constant angst. Waiting for text messages. “Why did he take so long to return my text? What exactly did he mean when he texted, ‘ttyl’?” Constantly feeling unwanted. Feeling rejected.

Why are relationships so difficult and painful?

I employ concepts and approaches aimed to help empower your relationships. To help you focus on only what you can control.: your own behavior. There are many reasons one experiences rocky intimate relationships. Relationships don’t come with an instruction manual. relationship help atlantaBUT, there is a common thread that runs through dysfunctional relationships. They key is for you to identify the origins of your relationship patterns. Only then can you begin to change your relationships.

Why do I have relationship problems? I need advice. I need more than advice!

It is important to identify Triggers that preceed:

1) you pushing someone away
2) you distancing yourself
3) anger and rage episodes
4) becoming suspicious and obsessive
5) feeling abandoned
6) feeling unwanted
7) feeling unlovable

I can help you identify triggers. I have been trained in techniques to help you gain new perspective. The first step is gaining insight on your behavior. I will then provide advice based on your new understanding of yourself.

Why do I continue to attract unaccountable men?

Ponder this: First, it is an expression of helplessness to believe you are a magnet for lousy men. It suggests you are a passive participant in your relationships. Second, we encounter the many of the opposite sex every day. Is it not through chance accident these men have the  same qualities. Empower yourself! I can help you have a deeper understanding of yourself and who YOU are attracted to.

We interrupt this program for Breaking News. If you are still reading this, you are likely a good candidate for improving your relationships!

Parental Abandonment in Childhood

Abandonment is perceived by an adult differently than a child. Children own their abandonment. I was bad. I did something wrong. I was to blame. I did something to not be loved. What did I do to make Mom not want me?

What do children perceive as abandonment?

A parent who:

1) had an alcohol or drug addiction (click here for an excellent book)
2) was incarcerated
3) died
4) left the home
a) started another family
b) many broken promises of visitations, birthdays.
c) broke all contact

A child perceives a parent’s death in the same manner as if they had they left. Or if they were incarcerated. Why didn’t he want me? What did I do wrong? Have you ever told yourself those words in your intimate relationships? If so, you could be acting out those old abandonments.

Bad Experiences or Unpleasant Memories from Childhood

Sometimes we have bad early memories but question whether it was abusive. I can help you determine this.

1) Sexual Abuse
a) Incest
b) Sexual exploitation
c) Being touched in ways that caused you to feel uncomfortable
d) Taken advantage of while you were intoxicated
2) Emotional neglect
a) Parent who was absent emotionally
b) Substance abusing parent
3) Physical Abuse
a) discipline that felt to you the person was in a rage

Why discuss my past?

1) If it is causing unhealthy adult behavior then your past is…your present. If you revisit the past, you give it new meaning. This new meaning paves the way to changing the present.

Be Courageous. You can do it!

I will provide the safe environment for you to confront your pain and fears. Take charge now.  Click here to make an instant appointment.

Holiday Blues?

There is a quote from a famous therapist. “If you think you’ve heard it all before, you aren’t listening.” Each person is unique. Many clients feel lost. It is your role to talk in your sessions and my aim is not to fix you. It is not my role to find you. You seek counseling to find yourself.

Atlanta Depression Counseling with Eric

Thinking of getting a therapist? I work with adults who struggle with anxiety, depression, panic attacks, life trauma, dissociative disorders and gambling addiction.

There are thousands of psychologists, professional counselors, social workers and marriage and family therapists in metro Atlanta eager to help you. Like clients, each professional is unique in their approach to provide counseling for depression.verified by Psychology Today

Depression is a broad term but it often manifests as feeling stressed, irritable, sleepless and even unexplained aches and pains. It is the first word that enters our mind when we think about our emotional pain. Depression may also be the “ball of confusion” we feel when we lose a family member, divorce or are struggling in a difficult relationship. Some of the red flags of depression are panic attacks, crying spells, social withdrawal. There are others. Therapy can be incredibly helpful for reducing or eliminating these effects. In fact, many are amazed with their ability to recover from depression and anxiety once they seek help. Therapy can help with many other forms of mental or psychological distress.

I am a therapist. I am also a part time musician. The skills required for both are surprisingly similar. They are equal parts science, art, and craft. When a therapist fuses these skills, clients feel empowered, that their feelings are real, that someone understands them. As a result, they feel less depressed and anxious. When we understand our feelings and beliefs, we learn what motivates our behavior. When we learn what drives our behavior, we can change it. And also change how we think and feel.

Therapy as Science

The science of therapy is learned in graduate school through coursework and research– textbooks on family therapy, play therapy, group therapy, diagnosis of schizophrenia and other severe mental illnesses. Also, there are many theories and approaches to helping people improve their mental state and change behavior. Some are therapeutically confrontational; assertive approaches to helping you see irrational behavior. Some are atlanta depression counselorshomework based. Some are targeted at specific fears like spider phobia. My therapeutic approach is focused on growth, change, developing healthy relationships, finding peace and happiness. In textbooks, it is known as eclectic or blended therapy. I blend cognitive, interpersonal and experiential therapy.

Therapy as Art

There is a quote from a famous therapist. I don’t recall his name:

“If you think you’ve heard it all before, you aren’t listening.”

Each person is unique. Therefore, I do not perform therapy as a “procedure”. I do not aim to fix you. Since my life is not your life, I don’t tell you what is best for you. You have the ability to make the best choices in your life. My role is to listen and observe carefully and provide a different perspective. Many clients feel lost. As such, it is not my role to find you, but to help you find yourself.

You as an Artist: Making a Sketchbook of Your Life.

With The Art of Experiential Therapy, everything you experience in my office is an opportunity to help you understand yourself, grieve your losses, and allow yourself to feel and heal and grow and change. When you notice something on my desk has been moved a few inches. When I yawn (but that doesn’t happen often-honestly). When YOU yawn. When your eyes tear. When you suddenly change the topic…these are only examples.

Therapy is both scary and exciting, but that is how therapy should work. As they say, ‘nothing ventured, nothing gained’. If you are taking risk and feeling emotion in your sessions with me, you will make progress and feel better.

Therapy as Craft

The seamstress, the carpenter, the brick mason. What do these occupations share in common? They all develop their skills through apprenticeship. As a therapist, you learn special techniques; means and methods and systems. Others teach you. As you collect tools, you place them in your tool box. Some you will use often. Some only occasionally. Nevertheless, all the tools have a purpose. One of these tools are the therapist’s own feelings; their compass. It is when the science moves out of the way and the art/craft moves forward that exciting things happen in therapy. You may come to a session thinking you have nothing to share or discuss. You may leave the same session feeling incredible relief and delight that you had a breakthrough!

“There is no substitute for experience.” – Eric Groh LPC GA Licensed

My Background

Now that you know my science, art and craft for providing therapy, please feel free to book an instant appointment.

Professional Specialties

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